let’s be honest. Many of the marriages today are second timers or singles with children, Those children are going to be mixing into a new family. What better way to include them than to let them take part in the ceremony. So after the first two candles are lit, the parents committing to each other can then lead the children up and light candles for each of them. And what a beautiful and shared moment when all candles come together to light the family pillar.
